Are You Still With Your Partner Out Of Grief, Guilt Or Fear?

If you stay with your partner out of pain, guilt or fear, now is the time to ask yourself what all this brings you. Because, most likely, you are not being happy and that your relationship is not based on love.

Sometimes, that the couple saddens us and generates guilt is something that goes hand in hand.

We can feel guilty for multiple reasons. For example, he  is a very good person, he loves us a lot and, of course, how can we want to leave the relationship and hurt him.

Fear, on the other hand, goes by other different paths. Here there may already be situations of abuse or even personal fears that urge us to remain attached to that relationship. For example, if we suffer from emotional dependence.

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If you continue with your partner out of grief and guilt, you hurt him

If you stay with your partner because you feel sorry and guilty for telling him that you want to leave the relationship, consider that, even if you do not recognize it, you are doing much more damage.

That person does not deserve to be with someone who is not being totally honest with them. Because you no longer love her, you want to leave her, but guilt and grief approach you and make you give up your attempts.

Human beings have the power to be empathetic, which can work for us or against us. At the moment when we want to leave our partner, their crying and sadness may make us feel bad.

This is something everyone wants to avoid. However, it is natural and should not be a barrier to making a decision that will actually be beneficial to both of you.

• On the one hand, you will stop being with someone out of grief and you will stop perpetuating a relationship that is based on guilt, not love.
• On the other hand, you will allow that person to be free so that he can live a real love.

Although we believe that in breakups you always lose, many times you win, even if it takes time to recognize and accept it.

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Are you still with your partner out of fear?

It is very different if you continue with your partner out of grief than out of fear.

If so, what is the source of that fear? Perhaps you have conveyed your intention to separate and he has threatened you? Are you afraid that he will raise his hand, something he does regularly? Possibly, you are being a victim of abuse, according to this study by the University of Ríotinto (Huelva).

In these situations, fear can paralyze. However, it is very important to get the courage from anywhere to put an end to this situation.

In Spain, by dialing 016, a number that does not leave a trace on your phone, the people on the other side can give you the relevant instructions and answer any questions you have.

Find the assistance number in your country to call in case of need.

Of course, the last decision is up to you.

Read also: Recognize and avoid emotional manipulation in the partner

If, on the other hand, the fear is not this but that you stay alone and do not find a partner again, then we may be talking about emotional dependence.

This is a problem that affects many people and for which professional help is suggested. You will discover how, in reality, you can end that relationship without being afraid.

Cut to the chase

If you continue with your partner out of pain, guilt or fear, it is important that you know that you have to cut your losses. In fact, it is the only healthy way out for your relationship.

These 3 feelings together will not only bring more problems with your partner, but the relationship can turn into something toxic. And, all this, because you avoid putting a very necessary end point.

It is natural to feel sorry, guilt or fear, but those emotions invade us only if we allow it.

It is our duty to face them, because only then will we stop being in a relationship that does not make sense. We are limiting ourselves in order to be happy and we are also limiting ourselves to the other person.

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If you stay with your partner out of pain, guilt or fear, think that, in reality, the harm for both of you is greater than the benefit. It is time to act.