In Your Worst Moments You Will Know Who Deserves To Be In The Best
Time is the best gift we can give to those we love. Hence, it is important to know to whom and in what way we dedicate those moments, those moments full of love, friendship, complicity, support or fun.
In addition, we also thank those who give us part of theirs, especially if they do it because they feel like it and without asking for anything in return because they know we need it. In fact, this appreciation is even greater when the people we care about share with us moments when we long for their company.
It is wonderful to have people in life who are there when we precisely need them to be, when we feel listened to and supported, covered by their support and affection. Let’s go deeper.
Our PEOPLE, with capital letters and first
These same people who hold us keep us close for the simple fact that they don’t want to keep us away, even when we are not the best company, since we carry a very contagious virus: discouragement.
Hopelessness is a pathogen that, when it hits us to the bone, is very difficult to scare away.
In addition, they are the only people who can be aware of what it has cost us to achieve our goals.
Thus, difficult moments are the hand of that realistic cartoonist who portrays the degree to which we matter to the people we appreciate.
In difficult moments, support pushes us
The degree of automation that exists in our lives is very great. If we counted the number of tasks we do without thinking, we would be amazed. We get up, head into the shower, dry off, get dressed, eat breakfast. So we can go all day without realizing it.
However, if bad times are characterized by something, it is because this automation is disconnected. We are no longer so skilled or capable or at least we think so. Thus, the simple becomes complicated because it becomes a wall with many difficulties to climb.
Faced with this continuous exercise of efforts, the fact that there are people around us who are willing to support us makes these tasks easier.
It is not easy to support someone in a bad time
Sadness does not make people nice or attractive. It may inspire them to write or paint pictures, but it causes them to become more introverted, withdrawing, and sometimes taking refuge in themselves.
Their gaze turns inward and they only seem to connect with us when we share their focus of attention.
They become demanding, thinking that the world and people owe them one. It is very easy that, in case of frustration, they download it with whoever they can, in the absence of being able to hold the destination to account.
On the other hand, their discouragement translates into a lack of attention to the needs and problems of others. It may even that, although it does not go unnoticed, the bitterness they feel at that moment fills them in such a way that it prevents them from being empathic with others.
Celebrating good times is giving thanks
If giving time and sharing it is giving a gift, inviting a celebration is a form of gratitude.
A symbol of recognition to the people who have always been there in the shadows and have not allowed us to throw in the towel at times when the temptation could be very great.
Celebrating, despite all the good it symbolizes, is not particularly well regarded socially. It is as if by the fact of sharing our joy for an achievement we are satisfied with it.
The celebration is associated with a lack of prudence and seriousness. To the lack of control of instincts and emotions.
In this way, when we repress joy we are punishing ourselves, even having achieved a great achievement with effort.
Celebrations are necessary because life and friends, the real ones, are still just as worthy and valuable as they were then.
