6 Steps To Heal Childhood Emotional Wounds

The painful experiences that we develop throughout our lives shape our emotional wounds. Generally, it is difficult for us to face emotional problems such as separations, betrayals, humiliations, abandonments or injustices.

The truth is that it is likely that many of us have not yet closed those emotional wounds. They keep hurting us and  let’s try to mask them with the makeup of life.

We don’t realize that we are just ignoring them and that the longer we wait, the more they will get worse.  This is much more complicated when we have not yet realized that we are hurt.

Ignorance about emotional wounds, together with the fear of reliving our pain, does not allow us to be ourselves, which forces us to play a role that we have little or nothing studied and that does not correspond to us.

Surely, if you are reading this, you will want to know yourself and improve yourself every day. Therefore, with this article we want to help you know what is the process you must follow if you want to start up the coping machinery that allows you to heal your emotional wounds.

Here are 6 stages that we need to experience to heal our emotional wounds:

1. Accept emotional wounds as part of you

Do not cover your eyes, the wound exists. You may or may not admit it, but I assure you that doing so is the only thing that will help you move on. Accepting a wound means looking at it, observing it carefully and knowing that having situations to resolve is part of the human experience.

You may think that blindfolding suffering is the best thing to do. But the truth is that this makes you deny that you are not well, which makes the wound more complicated over time.

You must accept and understand that we are not better or worse because something hurts us. Having built your armor is a heroic act, an act of self-love that has a lot of merit but that has already fulfilled its function. It has already protected you from the environment that caused the injury, so it is time to let go and move forward.

Accepting our wounds is very beneficial as soon as we take on the learning that we needed.  If you don’t, you will create numerous long-term problems, such as depression, anxiety, and various insecurities. This is suggested by this study carried out by the Central University of Chile and the Universidad Católica del Norte.

2. Accept that you hurt yourself by succumbing to fear or reproach

If we focus our attention on the pain and in the search for a culprit or a responsible party, we will be losing energy. Conserving our emotional energy is essential to heal our wound. Try to forgive yourself and forgive others, it is the only way you can turn the page and open your heart.

You must understand that the will and the decision to overcome our wounds is the first step towards self-understanding and self-care. You will not only develop these qualities by and for yourself, but also towards others, which will result in greater emotional well-being.

You can’t expect others to meet your expectations and pull you out of the pot every time you sink.  It is unfair to burden someone with that responsibility, which only corresponds to ourselves.

In fact, it is this type of behavior that leads to the cancellation of a large part of our relationships and our lives. And this in turn generates great emotional discomfort.

3. Give yourself permission to be angry with the people who fed your wound

The more they hurt us and the deeper our wounds, the more normal and humane it will be to blame and feel anger towards the one who hurt us. Give yourself permission to be angry with them and forgive yourself.

If you force yourself not to, you will end up suppressing that pain and turn it into hatred and resentment. These feelings are extremely detrimental to our health.

To live imposing emotional traps on ourselves is to punish ourselves and lead us to a life full of pain and dissatisfaction. Again, this will cause you to mask your true inner Self and not be able to open your heart.

4. After acceptance and forgiveness comes transformation

Absolutely all of our experiences teach us something. It is likely that it will be difficult for you to accept it, because our ego is a specialist in creating that protective barrier that hides our problems.

The truth is that our ego tends to complicate our lives. However, it is our thoughts and behaviors that simplify it for us. Every change requires great effort. It is necessary to look ahead and face that we are not being ourselves and that something must change.

5. Observe the world with and without injury

Take time to observe how you have attached to your wound in all these years.  It was there and, even without knowing how, it directed your every move. Get rid of your masks, don’t judge yourself, and don’t criticize yourself. Put all of yourself when trying to heal your wound in depth.

It is possible to change the mask in the same day or wear the same for months or years. Ideally, you should be able to say to yourself “Okay, I have put on this mask and the reason is this. It’s time to take it off . ” Then you will know that you are on the right track and that, for the rest of the trip, your guide will be the inertia that allows you to feel good without hiding yourself.

6. Lean on your social circle

It is likely that you think that you can with everything and that you have already come out of worse holes. However, there is no reason why you should give up the comfort of a heart that listens patiently.

It is clear that the support that others give us can be crucial when it comes to overcoming multiple obstacles. The Mayo Clinic also establishes a series of recommendations in the event that you are the one who must support someone going through these types of trances.

Don’t give up on hugs and the world.  They are also part of you, and together you can rebuild a new home in which to live without suffering.

Remember that the support of a psychologist may be necessary to undertake this process successfully.